I have a long standing friend from work, maybe 25 years. She’s always been into what I think of in my narrow-minded way as new age, spiritualism, woo.
We were out for dinner recently and someone asked how golf was going. I said shit, followed up with some detail. She said you’re always giving your monkey too much energy. She explained the concept. That weekend I turned my game around. Purely through my inner conversation.
Later in a LinkedIn work related post she chastised me for my self deprecating talk.
That combined with a coincidental conversation with one of my directors around the same time on a completely unrelated topic crystallised a major psychological realisation for me. It holds me back at work and golf. Probably life too. I am far too critical when I talk to myself in that inner conversation. I am my own worst critic.
This is a bit (lot) more woo than you might have expected in a comment. But it’s real. I didn’t realise how much I was berating myself.
I plan to get coaching specifically on this. Primarily for work (I’m a co-founder of a startup management consulting firm) but I’m sure it will trickle through to life and probably golf too.
Absolutely John and I glad you have reflected on your thinking in such an open and honest way!
I am planning a piece on Double Loop Learning (which you may have come across in the management world - Schon and Argyris) which help us ask about our assumptions and interrogates the why! Im at a point where I feel it is so important to do this for golf (and life/work etc).
I’d love to hear how you’re getting on and thanks for sharing!
I have a long standing friend from work, maybe 25 years. She’s always been into what I think of in my narrow-minded way as new age, spiritualism, woo.
We were out for dinner recently and someone asked how golf was going. I said shit, followed up with some detail. She said you’re always giving your monkey too much energy. She explained the concept. That weekend I turned my game around. Purely through my inner conversation.
Later in a LinkedIn work related post she chastised me for my self deprecating talk.
That combined with a coincidental conversation with one of my directors around the same time on a completely unrelated topic crystallised a major psychological realisation for me. It holds me back at work and golf. Probably life too. I am far too critical when I talk to myself in that inner conversation. I am my own worst critic.
This is a bit (lot) more woo than you might have expected in a comment. But it’s real. I didn’t realise how much I was berating myself.
I plan to get coaching specifically on this. Primarily for work (I’m a co-founder of a startup management consulting firm) but I’m sure it will trickle through to life and probably golf too.
Happy to keep you posted if you’re interested.
Absolutely John and I glad you have reflected on your thinking in such an open and honest way!
I am planning a piece on Double Loop Learning (which you may have come across in the management world - Schon and Argyris) which help us ask about our assumptions and interrogates the why! Im at a point where I feel it is so important to do this for golf (and life/work etc).
I’d love to hear how you’re getting on and thanks for sharing!
I read up on Double Loop Learning today. Makes sense in a work context. I’m interested in how you plan to apply it to golf!